I believe everything happens for a reason. This includes meeting the people we meet, the people we have a relationship with, and the people we lose along the way. I also believe that things happen just as they are meant to. “You are right where you are meant to be, right now”, is one of my favourite remarks, especially for friends (and myself) when they need some extra reassurance in life.
Unfortunately, it can be hard to remember this when “where you are right now” seems the furthest from where you’d rather be.
A friend of mine recently and unexpectedly went separate ways with someone they loved. As a result, and understandably, they’ve been very upset. Unfortunately, I’ve just been through something similar. So I know, as will you, that despite support from friends and their helpful words all you actually really want is for things to go back to being fun, awesome and happy. Which, of course, is not how life works. There is no rewind and pause.
You want to keep holding on to what could have been and don’t want to accept the reasons for why it wasn’t. You forget that you weren’t actually happy with the status quo. Or that you simply needed more of what you weren’t getting. You forget to graciously consider the positives you got from the situation, and the positives you get from moving on.
In other words, it’s hard to see the silver lining when it’s clouded by negative thought.
If things happen for a reason, and just as they are meant to, there must be something for us to take from everything we go through. It might be a better understanding of other people, learning more about who you are, or realising that there’s something better yet to come. A new opportunity waiting just for you to help make things fun, awesome and happy all over again. All it takes is some rational reflection and to let things be the way they are meant to be. Possibly also wine. Possibly not...
For me, I had some great times, the chance to enjoy a rare connection with someone pretty awesome, and the realisation that I did a reasonably good job on the patience front (usually not my strong point).
But what will be, will be.
I am right where I am meant to be, right now.
And so are you.
Little Miss Melbourne xoxo