The List

When it comes to being single, it’s not uncommon for us to have a list of traits we might look for in our version of the ideal partner.  I guess this is just like setting goals which, as any self-confessed goal-junkie will tell you, helps you get to where you want to be.

After chatting with a friend about her list a couple of months ago, it reminded me of my own.  Out came the list again to act as my secretive informal screening process and invisible radar should any such traits come within the immediate vicinity.  My mental list looked a little something like this:

Confident and driven:  Tick.
Tertiary educated:  Tick.
Has lived OS: Tick. 
Shares an affliction with incorrect use of your vs you’re: Tick.
Has his own business:  Tick.
Works in hospitality/entertainment: No go. 
Over 6ft tall: No go.
Younger: No go.
Is a friend/shares mutual friends (ie it’s all a bit too ‘close’): No go.
Doesn’t enjoy copious amounts of red wine: No go. 

Even after typing it out I still feel pretty convinced that it’s spot on.  However, my dear friends, let me tell you that my clever little list has been well and truly blown out of the water of late – yet things are going miraculously ok.  Conversely, I’ve dated a few men who have met the selection criteria only to soon after rename them to 'DO NOT ANSWER' in my appendage of a phone (in other words, it didn't work out). 

As an aforementioned self-confessed goal-junkie it's been a little hard to understand these outcomes when ideals haven't worked out.  But you know what?  I’ve decided that I’m letting go and saying goodbye to the cardboard cut-out.  Instead I’m opting for something a little more lifelike. Let's see how that goes...

Little Miss Melbourne